Marriage & Relationship Therapy
Relationships are essential to our happiness. Disharmony causes frustration, sadness and hopelessness. Therapy can help.
I help rebuild and fortify relationships by focusing on your strengths, appreciating what is strong rather than solely on what is wrong.
Relationships can get stuck in demoralizing negative patterns that reflect the assumptions and expectations we have about each other. I work with you to slow down and parse how your histories and current interpretations of each other impact how you react and behave. Such compassion both for yourself and for each other can help you improve your dynamics and how you engage with each other.
I help with communication, intimacy and sexual issues, jealousy and mistrust, infidelity, co-parenting or child/parent conflicts, aging issues, addiction, and more.
I meet couples, parents, children and siblings, together or separately. Even if those in your relationships are unavailable or unwilling to seek therapy, I can still help resolve problems without them present.
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, relationships need to end. There is an art to breaking up amicably with the least damage. Navigating the stages of separation and divorce – including decision-making, the legal process, managing new financial or work realities, effective parenting and co-parenting, dating again, and forming stepfamilies – is as important as the decision to end a relationship.
Relationship disharmony, divorce and break-up can also provide opportunities for personal growth and serve as catalysts for greater happiness. Helping you adopt the philosophy of “not letting a crisis go to waste” lets you reconstitute your life in meaningful and truly fulfilling ways.
Couples On The Brink: Discernment Counseling
When couples are considering divorce but aren’t certain that’s what they truly want, I offer Discernment Counseling (DC), a short-term therapy, up to five sessions. In this type of counseling, I help you look carefully at your options, particularly if one of you is "leaning out" (unsure regular marriage counseling would help), while the other person is "leaning in," (wanting to rebuild the relationship). Read more about this